Sex, Drugs and Rock and Roll
David Sanchez, CSAT
When people ask me what I do for a living, I could easily say that I work with individuals that have a problem with sex, drugs, and/or rock and roll, but it is so much more than this. As a therapist, I am trained to understand why humans behave in certain ways, and at times, it is humbling to know that I myself do things that may not seem the best afterwards. It is called “being human”. Welcome to this beautiful third rock in the galaxy.
Yes, we are all humans, for better or worse we can perform wonderful, wise and uplifting actions and we can also do cruel, unwise, and demeaning actions. Why do we do the latter? That is beyond the scope of this article; more to come at another point in time on that question. For this article, I would like to share more about men and why they do what they do.
As a male therapist I have both the clinical training to help male clients as well as the innate understanding of why some men do what they do. Now, to be fair, my female associates also are very good at helping male clients and I also learn a lot from their perspectives, however; I speak the language of man, being one.
With this specific resource, I must say that I have seen men that have over 1,000 friends, and yet are some of the loneliest people in the city. I have seen men who have created large innovative companies, who have also, through unhealthy actions, almost or have destroyed their marriages and families. I have also seen men who are some of the hardest working and most talented men I have ever known feel that they are a failure and will never be good enough. I know that you may disagree with me, but when these men show me their emotions, I feel that they are the most courageous and strongest men around.
So, what’s my point? Dr. Brene Brown from her book Daring Greatly, an expert on vulnerability and shame, said it correctly when she said, “Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.” By the way, Dr. Brown has herself admitted that this was very difficult for her and that she had to have her own “spiritual awakening” to be able to go through the process of being more vulnerable herself. So, there you go!
If you want to be less stressed, less depressed, less addicted to things, less angry, less anxious, and less overwhelmed, you need to slow down. Yes, slow down, and allow yourself to be vulnerable and seen by the right person(s). For many men, I would say that if you do not have someone like this, a therapist, especially one sensitive with men’s issues, is a great place to start. The rest could be the beginning of moving forward towards being the man you want to be, having the relationships you want to have, and receiving the positive change that you thought you would never have.
For more information contact, David Sanchez, LPC, LCAS, CSAT, EMDR Trained Therapist. David Sanchez is a licensed professional counselor, a life coach, a licensed clinical addictions specialist, a certified sex addict therapist and an EMDR trained therapist. He practices in Charlotte, NC but can see individuals that live in the state of North Carolina or South Carolina through counseling via in-office, phone or secure video conferencing. Mr. Sanchez is also able to see someone that lives in the United States or abroad through his coaching and consulting services. If you would like to speak to him or one of his associates, please call 980-263-9608 or e-mail him at firstname.lastname@example.org.